“Girl, Stop Apologizing” Review

Just when you think you are exclusive like you got the latest iPhone or you tried a hip restaurant, the biggest thing no longer becomes exclusive. Well, Barnes and Noble had the special edition of “Girl Stop Apologizing” in select stores as well as other retailers received shipments early, where some copies have been sold. So it’s a crazy deal, but Rachel Hollis’ crew decided the book release date will be moved up a week to March 5th. It’s a joy to know the world can obtain a copy of this book early.

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I discovered Hollis after I had lost my grandpa. In a somber state, I read “Rising Strong” by Brene Brown, “Big Magic” by Elizabeth Gilbert and then “Girl Wash Your Face” by Rachel Hollis. It made the bright sunshine at my favorite place to read by the pool in the summer feel a little bit more enjoyable like before. That book pushed me slowly out of the state where I was like, “now how do I move on.”

Other than falling asleep after reading a few pages tired at night, this book was a quick read. I read 3/4ths of it within a 5-hour time frame on a Saturday. I loved the three components that it was made up: excuses to let go of, behaviors to adopt, and skills to acquire. Even though I’m not a parent, I enjoy the content she produces. “So I refuse to teach them that you should pursue your dreams but simultaneously be ashamed of them,” Hollis writes in Excuse 8: What will they think?

Even though I’m not a parent, I enjoy the content she produces. “So I refuse to teach my children that you should pursue your dreams but simultaneously be ashamed of them,” Hollis writes in Excuse 8: What will they think? That’s quite a powerful statement. We need to forget the pressures the rest of the world has on us while we want to simply achieve her goals. I feel as though we should not even be afraid to tell our best friends and siblings our dreams.

This is a book that a lot of people are not going to like to hear because it is not only for discipline, but it is about finding a way to make things happen. Yeah, you might be uncomfortable during the process, but it deals with communication and planning. The truth is not one that people will like to hear.

This book made me think of a lot of strong women I know who are working women that are involved in the community. First, it’s easy to ridicule someone with a nanny or who goes on a date night, but it’s very important. I know people argue about Hollis’ once a week date night rule, but it has helped a couple I know whose child underwent cancer treatments. Lisa’s mom suggested that they have a date night once a week to forget about their worries. Between balancing a sick child and clients, Lisa along with her husband Derek made date night work. Also, I babysat for a family when their nanny was not able to watch their kids. When I was at Leila’s house she was in and out checking on her girls where she listened to all that was on my mind. I just knew I was helping her with the daily tasks.

In the end, I feel as though Hollis’ content is about creating support for one another. However, it begins with ourselves. There’s something about reading Hollis’ content where you look around then suddenly your house is cleaner, you have ingested more water, and there’s a project you planned to do that’s completed. With this book, I definitely want to focus on writing more not for clients like I have in the past, but for myself.

Also, one thing I might add is that BuzzFeed mentioned how Hollis had copied other writers. In this book, Rachel quotes many authors including Jen Hatmaker. Rachel does have a whole crew that helps her put together content. I do not stand by cheating at all. However, I have written down ideas to turn around and see someone else with the same idea so stuff like this happens, but she gave credit in “Girl Stop Apologizing.”

Up next in reviews is “Developing Female Leaders” by Kadi Lang Cole.

“I Think You’re Wrong (But I’m Listening)” book review

web-cover.pngAt the beginning of 2018, a friend of mine Beth Ellis (not to be confused with Beth Silvers)  introduced me to the podcast, “Pantsuit Politics.” The hosts Beth Silvers and Sarah Holland Stewart seemed too relatable. Especially since Sarah grew up in Paducah, KY, which is not too far from me. Since then on every Tuesday or Friday, I wake up and get ready for work while listening to Sarah from the Left and Beth from the Right. When I had the chance to be apart of the book launch club, I said yes. So on February 5, “I Think You’re Wrong (But I’m Listening): A Guide to Grace-Filled Political Conversations” will be released.

When in high school, I was shocked to get a copy of “Profiles in Courage” by John F. Kennedy. I was taken back by it. Later, I learned historical encounters where politicians lost their careers by speaking up on other sides of the aisle. As I look back on my experience with that book, I feel as though more political stories need to be told that way.

Well, Pantsuit Politics is the closest thing we have to “Profiles in Courage” from an unbiased and historical standpoint, but only in a podcast form. However, this book is a manual as to how to practice thought-based politics and stories of Sarah and Beth’s experiences.

My reaction to “Profiles in Courage,” definitely falls into the category or lesson of chapter 2 of learning to take off my jersey. That chapter is the introduction of how to see across the other aisle. In that chapter, they go over the history of the welfare system, which was very insightful.

In the beginning, I really wanted to pick up a book on Abigail Adams. Beth mentions how Abigail was for open toward speaking about political discussion. Many times we have been told to shut up about political discussion, but we are still not opposed for arguments.

Both of the women are Christians so I really admired how they used scripture throughout the book. This was really helpful in the chapter “Embrace the Paradox,” which I will explain more at the bottom. The best part that states their political harmony was toward the end.

“We’ve decided to stop calling American ‘divided.’ Buying into this conflict-driven narrative is a choice and it’s a choice we’re not going to make. We don’t feel divided from each other or the people in our lives in any way.”

First, I guess this is a sign that we should love the sweet lady at church the same as before you heard her horrible stance on Trump’s wall. That fact should not divide you from the love she showed you all your life from dance recitals to showing her pictures from prom. However, some time that conversation goes the other way.

Now the first sign I knew I loved these girls is when they talked about gun-safety after the Majorie Stone Douglas shooting. Obviously, these kids will never view Valentine’s Day the same. However, Sarah from the left stated, “don’t think for a moment that these parents who have guns love their babies as less as you.”

When I first read the book, I really love how that mentioned that is often practiced not to discuss politics. To me, this had lead to increased arguments across the board politically. This is a book that is needed right now. Even though we are in disagreement, we need to extend an olive branch.

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At the end of each chapter, these women had steps as to how to enable political discussion. Most of the topics were in regards to healthcare and their experiences as moms.

Yet, the biggest take away from these women is that you can support both parties like be pro-guns and pro-gun safety. This is evident in the chapter “Embrace the Paradox” where we are told to just support the one side or you will cause it to lose. They certainly embrace that your political party does not have to be one-sided and you can disagree with an issue. On “Pantsuit Politics,” the women have vocalized their frustration for the straight ticket voting option.

I would highly recommend pre-ordering the book on Amazon or your preferred retailer so we can put their actions into practice. This might be a great book to send your public officials that don’t listen to the other side. Now until February 5th, just listen to a few episodes. I’m for sure you will admire Joybird Furniture, which is one of the sponsors for the podcast.

***Thanks Thomas Nelson for the advanced digital copy. It brings me joy to review something. In college, I wrote album reviews. So it’s good to write about something in a timely manner. Also, the name of my blog does not reflect that I do book reviews. I just related to Richard Gere in “Runaway Bride” when he said, “Journalism, is literature in a hurry.” Needless to say, that’s where I got my blog’s name.